Tuesday, 3 February 2015

To BE or Not to BE !?


     
   At the brink of emotional bankruptcy, the stark question would be "To BE or Not To BE". Failure is one thing that shakes our conscience to the bottom and leave us introspecting our own capabilities. However, when you juxtapose successful people of all times, the unequivocal result one would derive is " they all have failed more than once in their life time ". It is an unbearable truth yet never ceases to amaze us. So what it takes to climb the ladder into the higher echelons of  the society? Is it only the God's gift which defines who you are today or your concerted efforts which will define whom you will be tomorrow ? The ball is in your court, read and decide for yourself.
             Actor, writer, director, producer Sylvester Stallone born on July 6, 1946, in New York City. One of the most popular action stars of all time, Stallone is best known for portraying two heroic characters on the big screen—boxer Rocky Balboa and Vietnam War veteran John Rambo. Stallone had a difficult childhood. Both he and younger brother Frank were adversely affected by their parents’ hostile relationship, which later ended in divorce. Sylvester spent some time in foster care. He eventually ended up in Philadelphia, living with his mother and her second husband. There Stallone struggled emotionally and academically. After his expulsion from several schools, he attended a special high school for troubled youth.
               While he waited for his acting career to take off, Stallone worked all sorts of jobs to make ends meet. He cleaned up the lions’ cages at the Central Park Zoo, ushered at a movie theater, and even made an appearance in an adult film called A Party at Kitty and Studs (1970). In addition to acting, Stallone had an interest in writing. He created a screenplay about a rough-and-tumble thug who struggles for a chance to make it as a professional boxer. According to several reports, Stallone refused to sell the script unless he was allowed to star in it. Despite having a pregnant wife and little money in the bank, he held out until he found two producers, Irwin Winkler and Robert Chartoff, willing to let him play the lead. Released in 1976, Rocky became a critical and commercial hit. The rest is history now. Sylvester Stallone is one of the most popular Hollywood action stars of all time.
            Every one of us want to stand out from the crowd and be recognised and appreciated for our talents. Irony is we do what the crowd is doing.! Ask your intuition are we doing justice to ourselves? Not really. Reason being we are afraid of failures. Thomas edison failed hundreds of time before inventing a bulb. See his endurance in his own words- "I have found more than hundred ways of NOT making a bulb!". What I have always beleived is "Success is not final. Failure is not fatal. But it is the step to continue the counts".
              Unrelenting faith and perseverance can do more wonders than a magic wand. 'Never Give Up' attitide is quintessential in bringing forth your dream. Live your dream every day. As Gandhi has quipped "Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever". Learn from your mistakes and leave no stone unturned to rectify them. The pervert society will make fun of you and underestimate you in all possible ways. Those who succumb will risk their goal and those who withstand will emerge victorious. This will make a fucking difference between who you are today and who you want to be. 

Buena suerte
Prashant Bhat 

Monday, 29 September 2014

IN PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS

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The notion of happiness is different for different persons. Evidently it is context based. Ancestors have opined that happiness is the best antidote one can find in this world. Yet it has remained elusive for many. Read my article, you will get to explore more of it.
    I believe success and happiness are co-related. People have mixed opinion on what happiness is. But certainly everyone nods their head as to what brings happiness is success. Being happy doesn't mean you are perfect. It just means you've decided to look beyond imperfections. The same girl who laughs and talks a lot and seems very happy is also the girl who may cry herself to sleep. What matters is her endeavor to create such an atmosphere around her. It i always in our hands to 'make' or 'break' out of any situation. Some people cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go. If you are angry for a minute, you will lose sixty seconds of happiness. Life on earth is pro tempore which can last from few minutes to a few decades. It's better to build a fort of rapture around us as a first line of defense. It may not solve all our problems neither will anger. Certainly it boosts our morale to fight all those hurdles which hinder our progress.
    According to Xavi, Happiness is the appreciation of one's emotions. In other words, It's the expression of ultimate joy one feels at that particular moment. How one gains happiness? This is one of the most disturbing questions I have ever encountered. Happiness is not something that emancipates after soul searching exercise. Just craft your feelings and give vent to your emotions.  Happiness will automatically reflect in your heart. The question again is how? Distinctly there are many ways to do it. One may find it in an adventurous night parties, others may find in public service and rest may in solitude. Inherently one's cultural background will have a say in choosing one of these. It's left to us to punch in to the best suited one.
    The antiquated belief in this unexplored area is "Money matters". People have come to an unequivocal conclusion that surge monetary income will bring long lasting cheers. However it is a half baked truth. Money, to some extent, is the need of the hour. Yet it's not all. I have always perceived money as the second citizen in my life (To know the first, read my previous article :p). The glaring truth is, with money comes isolation. You tend to have the company of people from equal strata. This segregates you from the rest of the society. You start to ignore relationships that once mattered to you the most during your humble beginning. Moreover ignorance beyond acceptance, makes others to ignore you.
     We Indians, do nothing without expectations. We always look for the brighter side and ask "what is in it for me?!". yes there is a lot for you in the basket. A happy feeling all through the day can create wonders in life. Ecstasy is the proven antidote. Every one has a sense of humour. If you don't laugh at jokes, you probably laugh at opinions. A smiling face makes people to people interaction lively and meaningful. Thats the reason corporate world demands us to wear at least a fake smile.  Work around is in making every moment euphoric. This would build a sense of elation in us meanwhile sky rocketing our confidence amid day to day setbacks. There is no reason to be unhappy in life when everything we wish for is at our foot step. Only thing is we are lazy to pick it up. Every problem has a solution. To go in search of it, lets choose the trodden path where fragrance of happiness turns your journey more appealing.  

    After all this brainstorming , I still wonder ' why I wrote this?! ' .  May be I am at my low ebb, waiting for miracle to happen in my life. Unfortunately nothing is at my disposal. I would be very glad if GOD reads this and bestows with something/someone I am in dire need of. 


Hope so,

PRASHANT SHIVARAM BHAT

Saturday, 17 May 2014

DREAMS THAT FOLLOW



“A quitter never wins-and-a winner never quits .” This one quote has been lurking in my mind for years.  It is true that winning in life isn’t everything, but wanting to win is. Life has been a herculean task for me from the beginning.  Without vision people perish. You need a dream if you want to succeed in your life. I too have an astonishing dream. Read my story. Hope you will appreciate.
       Knowledge was of least concern for me when I was in my pre-university. Fame and appreciation surged hand in hand with my marks. I had shortlisted BOSCO for my CET tuition. For the first time in my life I appreciated the essence of knowledge there. The real teacher is one who ‘inspires’ and  Bosco, crossing all benchmarks and yardsticks became my hero. From then on I never looked back. I stood first in my college and  got good CET rank. Future really seemed to be a cake walk for me. The twist was both of my medical and Engineering rankings were almost same. I remember a dialogue of a protagonist in an English serial “When you stand on the edge, in front of a sword, there can barely be two consequences : Life or Death. But there’s always a choice. ” I aspired for medical and my parents wished me to be an engineer. We were at loggerheads. I finally had to make peace with them,  needless to say I joined so called engineering.
One person who kept faith in me, called me just after PU results were announced. He is a doctor by profession and a mentor by instinct. Most of all he was my neighbour. I thought he knew of my intentions and probably was intending to help me. When I met him, he quipped “Why do you settle average when you can become iconic. Go in search of your dream. May all success be yours.” I nodded in agreement. I never took his words seriously until I failed and  became inferior in front of someone  I loved.
         I come from a semi orthodox Brahmin family. Naturally I am shy to mingle with girls. But this one girl who was my PU classmate left a lasting imprint in my memory. I don’t know what she thinks of me, whether she accepts me or not. The only thing I know, she being my side, life would be an endless ecstasy. When we finally had to depart, I proposed her. It’s a nice feeling getting scold by a girl. The reply was as expected “Let us be friends instead.” I don’t know why  girls don’t understand that partners can also good friends. I almost stopped messaging her. I was on her waiting list. I wish I had got a place in her heart. It did not happen early. But repercussion was not sorrow but an endeavour  to achieve that feat in my life which would prompt her to say “I wish I had accepted him. ” I never wanted to back off.
         The trend in engineering hostels is when a girl rejects, booze for a while, put all blame her, question her chastity and finally forget her. Luckily I am not that kind of a person. Self respect and patience are my heart and soul. The words of Ruskin are of great prominence in  my life “ What we think , or what we know, or what we believe is, in the end , of little consequence. The only consequence is what we do.”  I decided to wait and in the mean time put my strengths in sculpturing a long cherished dream. I became averse to entertainment and forgot for while that I too have a life beyond.
          Believe me, engineering is full of rhetoric. Do you know what best describes a trainee aspiring engineer like me!? “ jack of all, Master of none.”  Whole of engineering I wrote hundreds of assignments and  internals. Lesser said is better about projects and seminars. The antiquated theorems and obsolete teaching methods failed to inspire me. Of lately I recognised my talent space and did lot of research on what profession suits me the best. The result was obvious. “Engineering is not my cup of tea.” Then what is?? You will know when I achieve that feat. :p Everyone needs a constant thrust to survive that zeal for long. Now you know why I mentioned  that girl earlier!.
          The difference between luck and bad luck is quite slim. When opportunity knocks your door, if you open the door, its luck. Failing which is bad luck. I had a first taste of success in my final year. Job at Oracle. God bestowed me with the least expected. This was more than I deserved, but not all. For me, passion and profession does not rest on the same page.  Aspirations are like waves in a sea. What finally matters is which wave hit the shore. I want to be portrayed as a person who lived for something which he cherished from the beginning, certainly not as an opportunist.
Hoping to make a difference.                                                                                                                    
Yours                                                                                                                                                                    
Prashant shivaram Bhat

Friday, 22 February 2013

DON'T HUSTLE ABOUT PUTTING A HOUSE IN ORDER

THIS IS IN RESPONSE TO MY FRIEND'S ARTICLE IN   http://kavadikeri.blogspot.in/2013/02/freedom-of-expression-vs-censorship.html         



 Conspicuous of the fact that there are some contentious issues in the events leading up to arrests and denials. Though the question of legality is yet to take shape as the matter is in the supreme court, its propriety can certainly be questioned. However there are some existential questions to be answered by the so called wise 'Netizens'.

         One of the most disturbing feature online is  'Anonymity'. It is a ploy to camouflage their true identity. With the advent of social networking sites like Facebook, twitter and others, there is a room for frequent online interaction which is inherently void of any proper authentication. People get abused, harassed and cheated online by anonymous users. This disturbing trend has no 'Ready to use' solution. The evolving features in the IT Act legitimately intend to regulate online activity. The problems arising out of anonymity in identity are a cause of concern. As your essay reads self restraint is the best policy. But the solution is elusive in the self restraint net.
       Frankly speaking, almost every internet user one or the other way is a victim of online 'abuse'. We do not find even a single film star, politician or a TV anchor not complaining about abuse. the vulgar and goofy comments certainly requires punitive measures to contain them. At this critical juncture one has to take cognizance of popular sentiments before arriving at a decision. Otherwise the provocative online actions could ignite mass protests and communal riots. India cannot afford to entrench in such wild actions. So prevention of such uprisings requires prudent measures, which may look harsh but  are necessary in maintaining the social fabric.
      The divergent India has been home to divergent views. You have opined that 'Vishwaroopam' was made controversial though it was not. Frankly i have not watched the movie yet. But if you ponder the sequence of events that followed the release of controversial and highly contentious film on Prophet Mohammed, you will figure out the responsibilities of the govt in taking the precaution. I am not of the opinion that 'Vishwaroopam' be banned. But early measures are always cardinal in deciding the future scope of any event. They does not amount to draconian measures. You know best the laws are implemented in India. There is necessity to build broad consensus on obscure provisions of the IT Act. You cannot remove your limb because you are hurt. Proper mechanisms have to be put in place to check the misuse.
       Constitution confers every citizen freedom of speech and expression, not in absolute but relative terms. Intrusion on individual rights has to be dealt with iron hand. Fact of the matter is Constitution was framed and enacted in an era when only 17% of Indians were educated and press was the only means of public discourse. Now we are in the digital mould where things are so volatile and motile that things blocked in one form appear in the other in a nick of time. User interaction has grown enormously than we ever imagined. The point is the provisions you so far mentioned have become antiquated and archaic. There is need for re-look at the obsolete provisions of the same. 
         Yes, there is no 'Please all' formula. So efforts are on from the Govt to build a consensus on contentious issues. 'Carrot & Stick' approach of the Govt makes sense in highly volatile digital world. The motive behind this small expedition was to highlight the need for regulation. This essay does not, in any way support the infringement on the fundamental rights. Let stray incidents do not hamper our progress. The right path would be to shun the overzealous and hyperactive responses paving the way for secure digital world.

Monday, 4 February 2013

LIFE, LOVE AND CHARITY

             Definition of love is different for different persons. It rests on individual perspective of an individual. The most haunted question is who designed such a great, highly calibrated and precisely timed life. According to sacred texts life in entirety is a gift of God. God being omnipotent and ubiquitous created these impeccable creatures on so called Earth. The time bound life is a cycle of births and deaths. Philosophers say its routine, wherein 'if one goes other fits in' so that balance is maintained.
            What next ? God might have felt the need for continuity. There comes the concept of love. In strict biological terms love means sex and does not entertain emotions. We believe in love though its existence cannot be proved. Nature has time and again epitomized such things like air which we can see and but can't feel, fire which we can see and feel and emotions which we can't see but still we feel. Love falls in third category. The perception of love for all ages cannot be the same. Even the basic concept of love is quite paradoxical elsewhere. A mother's care for her child has always benen sacrosanct but bonding between a newly married couple in the early years is more of a lust than love. Facts are not science as dictionary is not literature. Exemplifying one or two does not delineate love. Question is what is the yardstick to classify what is love and what is not.?
         In the context of two love birds Shakespeare has said "True love starts only after sixty". The remaining is all about attraction. When I say I am in love what society understands is I am attracted to someone of opposite sex. You can also say I love my family members, but it is comprehended in different manner. When a girl or a boy attains a pubic age in normal course, he tends to get attracted to a person of another sex. A leading american philosopher has once said " What poor calls sex, is called love by the rich". The demarcation between love and sex is very bleak. Fact is that love in childhood is innocence and in adulthood is attraction.
        Behemoth question on the table is whether there exists real love.? In my opinion, Yes. An attraction even when they are not juxtaposed can be called love in real terms. Society at large accepts this argument. Mobile communication and Facebook have only rewritten the concept of love. People tend to get excited when they see their loved ones. If what we see, what we perceive is true then  what we tom tom around the world as love exists. Love is unwritten, unconditional bonding between two lives. Its vicinity is never beyond reach. In totality, the fragile argument that love is simply an attraction         
finds no basis. 
    The title of this piece of writing entails the word 'charity'. You may ask what one has to do with charity when one is in love.? The thing is when one succeeds in love charity does not come into picture. But when one fails, he turns inimical to one he loved. After all life is full of surprises. Her memories haunts him time and again. According to a study conducted in US only 10% succeed in love. Other 40% either name their child after their loved one or remain secluded. Remaining 50% end up in charity and social work. Now think of the power of love which turns a tech savvy into a philanthropist. The intriguing results of above study leave us in bewilderment. So think a moment before you ink your decision.